Let go of the preoccupation with other people’s opinions of you.
One of the most liberating experiences is when you let go of what other people think of you…. Why? Because it’s none of your business what other people think of you! And because when you start carving out the path for your own life you won’t have the time or energy to care what other people think of you. It’s the biggest waste of time and energy to try and make other people like you. You can’t make others like you, even if you tried. They either like you, or they don’t. Listening to other people’s opinions also quietens your own inner voice. Listen to yourself and your own voice, and if you can’t hear it yet, spend some time meditating to help you find it.
Stop subjugating your needs for others.
If you do things for other people, at the expense of your own needs, it leads to a build up of resentment. Aside from that, rescuing others also does them a disservice. People need to learn and grow from their own struggles in life! So, if you want to do something nice for someone, do it because a) you want to and because the act of doing something for that person is rewarding for you, personally, and b) because it’s actually helping them to be their best self. Don’t just do things for people if you can’t help them to learn to do it for themselves. Most importantly, don’t do things for others because you want their approval or validation. It doesn’t help you to find your freedom, and it definitely doesn’t help them to find theirs either. It simply leads to a pattern of dependence.
Do it for the love, and let go of the fear.
Let go of fear of disapproval, fear of abandonment and fear of rejection. Fear blocks your energy from flowing freely. Doing things out of fear never leads you to a place of freedom and happiness. Genuine fear is there to protect you, but make sure your fear fits the facts before you act on it. Examining your fears is step one… if you are detecting a danger when there isn’t one there then you’re limiting yourself. Ask yourself if your is fear coming from a rational place. If not, then perhaps you need to raise your awareness by practicing mindfulness and sit with it for a bit longer until it passes. Don’t let fear control you. You can gain your power back. When you’re in the driver’s seat of your own life, you can take ownership and responsibility for the direction you choose to go in. Don’t take the backseat and let your fear steer you in the wrong direction.
Live your life with intention.
Don’t walk around on autopilot. Feel your feelings, but evaluate the effectiveness of your actions. Don’t let your feelings control you. Don’t be a puppet in your own life. You only have one life, so live it in line with your values, not your fears. Rise above your feelings and evaluate your actions. Don’t act on toxic feelings and stay stuck in a place that does not serve you or those around you.
Be your authentic, true, genuine self. This is who you were born to be! Don’t deny yourself the opportunity to be that person. Your purpose on this earth is to be who you were meant to be. You are a one of kind, unique person…. this earth needs you, and you were born into this world for a reason. Embrace who you truly are and follow your own passions, dreams and desires. You are stronger, braver and more powerful than you know. Harness and channel the power that was bestowed upon you, and let your light shine!
Own your life and your life choices.
Freedom comes with responsibility. Don’t be a victim of your circumstances. You impact everything and everyone that is connected to you. This is a really big deal! So take responsibility for yourself and your choices and how they affect this world.